My husband passed away this summer. He really struggled with conversations about dying and how we would move forward. He did talk a little with close friends regarding his wishes for us. I commend anyone going thru treatment that is able to do things like write letters or make videos. I would have loved a letter or something tangible however for me seeing his strength and strong presence and quiet faith is what has carried me forward…along with my faith, support from my faith community and friends. Each day without him creates new challenges and opportunities to grow and reflect on our love we shared together. Your loved ones will have many hard days BUT they will smile, they will laugh and they will love!!! As for some practicals…if you are the “guys guy”…let your sweetheart know who you should call for car repairs, when to change the furnace filter…something that can give her confidence and strength that she can be okay. Maybe you do the Christmas cards…make sure the address list is known or if you have a special tradition together, tell someone to help your loved ones carry on with that. For us, that tradition was the state fair…and friends gave us tickets. Was hard for my kids and I to go but really important to do it and remember. Honestly, taking time to make more memories. We had some amazing last days…watching movies, playing games and just holding hands and cuddling. We made thumb prints on clay for my kids, myself and godchildren. We put them on a string with St Joseph medals (patron saint of fathers). Some where them, and some are planning to place on Christmas tree:). Hope this helps a little…your loved will be held so close by family and friends…you can’t even imagine. I realize all may have different thoughts and feelings about faith but if open to it, the days of the visitation and funeral can feel like a big warm hug…letting people help and be their is wonderful for all. It has been three months today since I lost my love and although I miss him terribly, he is no longer in pain and I can cherish the thought that I will be with him again. He is ALWAYS in my heart. Hope this helps.